Do you think there's an age limit to making friends?
Carrie Bradshaw, the columnist in Sex and the City, always introduces each episode's happenings with a pertinent question. However, reality is hardly like reel life, where everything gets beautifully resolved at the end and the viewer can usually derive answers to each episode's engima. But it seems kinda cool (admittedly pretentious) to begin this entry with a question, Carrie-style.
when foresters asked me with whom i thought i would remain in contact after we came back to Singapore, i answered that i wasn't quite sure. Because i got along pretty well with everyone in the group but there wasn't a group of people that i was particularly close to.
we have only been back in singapore for close to 2 months but somehow, perhaps due to the ruthlessly speedy way of living life here, our thailand stint seems like an eternity.
i was just sitting at tiong bahru market with some foresters today, eating qing teng and listening to them excitedly make plans for next week's gathering. and feeling rather touched that we would want to hang out with one another so regularly, despite the fact that there isn't a common goal to unite us all and our differences may prove to be a deterrent to enhancing our friendships.
looking back, it seemed that no distinct cliques had formed over our month of "cohabitation" together. given that 21 adults are elbowing into one another's existance for an extended period of time and it's human nature that people would forge more meaningful friendships with peers of similar interests, it's quite an absurd phenomenon huh. in thailand, i was concerned that this would mean that no body would gain any friends from this expedition and we would all just disperse and go our separate ways. but i guess our no-distinct-cliques relationship has worked out in our favor, since people are gung-ho for team outings.
returning to the initial question, i feel there is an age limit. too much ground and history to cover for new aquaintances making an entrance into your life. too little time for the window of opportunity to stay open before the winds of seasonal change blow these aquaintances away and drop other batches into your path. too much circumstance, too little connection
well, i don't know the answer for this particular life episode since the end isn't within sight yet. yet, i have hope. and place faith.
posted by heng @ 9:15 AM
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wah. got metaphor, allusion and alliteration and what have you in your writing :)
sometimes you already have other friends that matter a lot to you at our age. so unless the newcomers and yourself are extremely fascinated by each other (which again depends on luck and timing), and willing to explore long term possibilities together, it is difficult because of the opportunity cost involved. one may not invest because you can't be sure of the other's affection, and him/her, yours.
then there's always history, baggage to cover, but that can be the fun part if both are willing.
it sounds like love, and that is exactly what i mean.
sometimes it doesn't last, but don't let that hinder you from enjoying a guilt-free, short-term affair!! you know, like the initial HL grp also died mar in the end, but i had my orgasms and am none the worse for wear. like my entire hons class.
it usually dies when the number is huge like hons class and HL, much less 21 ppl in a group. but take heart you can make very gd friends with some, like I did with you!
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